Don't Let People Ride You

I believe one reason some people are vulnerable to being scammed is not because they are foolish, but because they are too nice.

When you are too nice and do not draw clear boundaries, people take advantage of your kindness. When someone borrows money, you find it hard to say no. Saying no feels uncomfortable. It feels wrong. You worry it makes you selfish, difficult, or unkind.

I saw this up close. A friend of mine lost hundreds of thousands of dollars to a love scam. Looking back, it was not greed that trapped her. It was kindness. It was the inability to say no when her heart was pulled.

The brutal truth is this: when you consistently say yes, people learn that asking costs them nothing.

The problem is not that you care.

The problem is that you care without limits.

There is a difference between being nice and being good.

Goodness comes from values. Niceness comes from fear. Niceness is driven by the desire to be liked. It avoids friction. It keeps the atmosphere pleasant even when something feels wrong.

A nice person agrees to things they do not want, tolerates behavior they do not respect, and stays silent to avoid rocking the boat.

Goodness does not require that. Goodness is anchored. It knows what it stands for. It can be kind without being compliant. It can be respectful without being endlessly available.

This difference matters more than most people realize.

I used to be too nice. I was taken advantage of, more than once. What I am learning now is that I do not have to become cold or hard to protect myself. I can still be good. I can still be kind. I just do not have to be pliable.

That is what this book taught me.

If any part of this feels familiar, this book may be the conversation you have been needing.

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